by Tony Stubbs, also author of An Ascension Handbook,
Living with Soul and It's All About Control

Life Celebration

As an alternative to doing the grief cycle, crossing over is an opportunity to acknowledge that life goes on and to share and celebrate that. You can turn your crossing into a loving experience by sharing what you’re thinking and feeling, whether it be anger, fear, love or excitement. Society would have us smother those thoughts and feelings out of fear and ignorance.
When the time comes for you or a loved one to move on, the only growth- promoting stance is for everyone to embrace the situation as-is rather than running and hiding out of fear. Of course, for this to be possible requires that all involved know about and accept the afterlife and the exciting journey to get there. If your loved ones do not, they can hold your process back, so encourage them to look within for their own inner strength and support you in your preparations for your sacred journey. It’s important for you all to know that, on your crossing, you will be met by others who are already there, and embraced and welcomed with great love.
Remember that being on the soul plane is normal, and that life on Earth is the aberration, and not the other way round. So, organize a big party to celebrate your return to your normal state on the other side. Tell everyone how much you've enjoyed their company and make peace with those whose company you detested.
Paramount is that you all celebrate your time together, knowing that you chose this exit point and that you'll be reunited in a few short years. So tell everyone to can the grief, tears and sadness. Crossing over is a blast!
It’s also vital to know that, as your crossing becomes imminent, you may well leave your body for periods and have conversations with those already on the other side, such as friends, relatives, guides and angels. If your end of the conversations is audible to those in the room with you, it’s important they accept this, and do not think you’re going senile and need to be medicated. Your loved ones should encourage these sojourns and not roll their eyes to dismiss them because, during your crossing over period, you are literally in two worlds at the same time. Also, you may often go out-of-body, and travel around the hospital or venture even further. On your return, you may describe activities going on around you, and it’s essential your loved ones do not invalidate your accounts or question your sanity. These experiences are perfectly valid and should be savored by both you and your loved ones as evidence of continuity after crossing. Enforce this position on any medical personnel in attendance.
Once you finally leave your physical body, all pain and physical sensations will vanish and you will feel wonderfully light and free to move without restraint, released from the great weight of your physical body and be free of your earthly shackles. Your energy will vibrate at a higher frequency than you have ever experienced in your human body. You will probably be met by loved ones on the other side, who will guide you towards a tunnel or an area where gathered together are the loved ones from your recent life who have already crossed. Suddenly, you’ll be in a reunion of family and friends who meet you with love and a warm welcome.

At this time, it's vital that those you leave behind do not grieve, for their energy will weigh on you while you're just getting going on the soul plane, so have a firm chat with them beforehand.
"Life Celebration" is excerpted from "Death Without Fear" by Tony Stubbs.